The phrase, “Going the second mile,” comes from a verse in the Bible. Matthew 5:41 “And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain (two).” KJV
Going the second mile with others, to help them, was a common occurrence in past centuries. In the 21st century the second mile is not as prevalent. Many people just do what is expected of them and never exert any extra effort. That second mile often requires more commitment than we are willing to give. That second mile is often an uphill battle.
You have to put others needs before your own. It takes a spirit of generosity, love, concern, and compassion to journey that second mile. Your attitude has to involve staying in the race until the problem is dissolved.
I must admit I have felt there were several times in my life that I dropped the ball and didn’t score a goal. Times when I let others down and did not go the second mile. I know that made me feel small, made me think I fell short of succeeding. Sometimes you simply collapse and yield from the weight and stress.
This 3 year dementia journey with my brother has caused numerous amounts of stress in my life. I am totally exhausted from the pressure. When you try your best and bureaucracy keeps knocking you down, you buckle from the physical and mental distress. My brother J.R. is not far from entering the last stages of dementia. He needs special care from this point forward, help I cannot give him. DHS is deliberately trying to find a way to deny another year of Medicaid long-term-care. Nothing has changed with J.R.’s financial situation from last year. There is no reason to deny Medicaid, but DHS is trying extra hard to find a reason.
DHS has pushed me into a corner, which makes you fight back. I searched the internet and ask questions of lawyers trying to find a solution. The answer was, resign as J.R.’s power-of-attorney. I did just that and there is no one to replace me. I never wanted to leave J.R. unprotected. The nursing home is now trying to find a state guardian for J.R., which means they will have to help him. I understand I may have to go to court and pay all court costs to get a guardian for J.R. I went the second, third, and fourth miles trying to help my brother. I feel I have dropped the ball and yet I know that I really did more than my best for my brother.
So, when you are faced with going that second mile for someone, do what Jesus said in Matthew 5:41. When you have done your best and there is nothing more you can do, you have gone that second mile. God will bless you for helping others. ♥