Funny How Time Slips Away

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When you reach your 40s and your 50s you begin to think about time slipping away.  You realize how fast life can pass you by.  Many of us waste more of our time than the time we spend truly living our lives.

My Mother use to play her old records and one of the songs I often heard was, “Funny How Time Slips Away,” sung by the country singer Ray Price.  This song has been recorded by many great artists that are gone now, Elvis Presley, George Jones just to name a few.

There is another song, “Yesterday When I Was Young” sung by Roy Clark.  My Mother also use to listen to this song.  A couple of lines from that song go like this:” Yesterday when I was young. The taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue.  I ran so fast that time and youth at last ran out.”

Have you ever stood before a mirror, looked at your image, and relized that young person you once were has become much older?  Your first thoughts are, “How did I get so old, where did the years go, my life is disappearing fast.”

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But, then I realize I know many Senior Citizens that do not let age slow them down.  They are out there living their lives, as energetic as those much younger than them.  They have either found that “Fountain of Youth,” or they have learned to live their lives to the fullest.  So, I think I will just follow their example.

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Woodpeckers

I see about 3 different types of Woodpeckers in my yard here in Arkansas.  Here are some pictures of them. The first one is the “Common Flicker Woodpecker” who is about 10 1/2 inches long.

The next one is 8 1/2 inches in length.  It is called the “Red-Bellied Woodpecker”.  I have no idea why they called it that, it’s belly is white and it’s head is red.

Our smallest woodpecker is the “Downy Woodpecker” and he is about 5 1/4 inches long.

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Looking UP

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I have been blogging for a little over a year now.  I have visited the sites of many other bloggers and met some wonderful and interesting people.  This post is not about blogs, this post is about “Looking Up” to the Heavens and asking yourself why God put you on this earth.  How can you make this earth a better place for others.  How often are you “Helping Others” overcome challenges in their lives?

I started this blog trying to help others learn how to cope with being a Dementia Caregiver.  I spent 3 1/2 years caring for, and dealing with the problems of, my brother J.R. who had dementia.  I know I was never the perfect caregiver.  Stress and constant conflict with DHS, lawyers, nurses, doctors, hospitals, and finally nursing homes caused me immense sorrow, and totally overwhelmed me.  I had no life of my own, all caregivers know, you have to give up your life for the one you care for and love.  The worse part of my caregiver journey was watching nursing home doctors and staff use drugs to control my brother the last year of his life.  They were using antipsychotic drugs that were intended for mental issues.  Dementia is not mental, it is the brain slowly dying, slowly shrinking.  I never used drugs of any kind to alter my brother’s brain when I cared for him in my home for 2 1/2 years.

My heart fills with compassion for those who have any type of disease or disability that alters their life.  Life on this earth is hard, and it is challenging, even when you are physically healthy.  We all need to reach out to those who are suffering.

Throughout my “Dementia Caregiver Journey” my strength came from God and my family.  Each morning I would stand at the kitchen window alone, looking up to the heavens. Everyday I prayed to God to help all those who need His care and comfort to make it through another day.

Intrusive or Obtrusive

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Intrusive – Involving yourself in the affairs of others in an objectionable manner.  Which causes an unpleasant life for the person receiving the attention from another.  Busybody Obtrusive – Interfering without regard for person or property.  Focuses on forcing yourself and your ideas on another whether they wish it or not.  Trying to totally rule another person’s life.

I have had a couple of women in my life, that became my friends, but they were Intrusive and Obtrusive.  They overwhelmed me, they invaded my life and tried to tell me how to live my life.  I put up with them for years and I still do not know why.

Here is a small example of total insanity on the part of these women:

Woman #1 – I had gone shopping with my husband for 2 hours.  When I arrived home I found this lady had left 25 messages on my telephone answering machine.  She was shouting for me to pick up the phone, she knew I was home.  She was mad that I was ignoring her.  The last few messages I am unable to repeat.  This relationship ended for me at that moment.   She was rabid with anger when I told her I would not see her again.

Woman #2 – I was on a bowling league.  This woman would come to the bowling alley and try to get me to quit the league.  One day our team won and we went for a victory lunch.  This woman wanted me to come to her house after the game to plant rose bushes for her.  When I did arrived she was irate and said I was hours late.  I tried to explain the lunch.  Oh my, was that a mistake.  I got both ears full of things I did not wish to hear.  This was the final straw and I ended the relationship. She became a mad woman with her anger.

The only way to end a relationship with this type of person, is immediately.  You may receive their wrath full force, but just let the words roll off your back.

I have had several intrusive ladies try to be friends with me after the two above.  I nipped those relationships in the bud before they started.  Life is too short to be stressed and miserable.  This type of relationships made me want to move out-of-state or just let a bus run over me and put me out of my misery. lol

So here are a couple of quotes about busybodies:

“If you stop focusing on other people’s lives, you will have more time to fix your own life.”  Sonya Parker

“Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that you’re an expert on my life and how I should live it.  Please continue while I take notes.” your e cards

 

Aspire To Hope

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– – – -A Short Story- – – – –

Mary  gazed out the kitchen window, toward the foothills, watching the morning sunrise. Her gaze lowered as she looked toward the East to see the neighbor’s cattle beginning to graze on the new Spring grass.  She spent time each morning, watching the world awaken through this very window, sipping a cup of coffee.  She was out of bed, each morning an hour or more before her husband Mark.

She stood this morning thinking of the 15 years she had lived on this 60 acre Wyoming ranch.  Her and Mark had bought this land to escape the hectic, noisy city.  At first she missed the city.  The winters in Wyoming were harsh, the work to improve the house and barn had taken a lot of physical work on the part of both of them.  In 2 years time they had spent all the money they had saved.  They both found employment in a nearby small town,  They down sized their lives to survive.

Four years later Mary had become pregnant with their first child.  After 4 months, Mary had miscarried and it had devastated both of them.  Two years passed and Mary was pregnant again, but she miscarried a second time.  Medical tests had shown that she would not be able to carry a child to full term.

As she stood at the window thinking of the years in Wyoming, memories filled her mind about the two precious babies she had lost.  She had been so depressed from that loss. Her and Mark began to have disagreements over whether to move back to the city or stay at the ranch.  They began to drift apart.  Ten years had disappeared and they were still childless, strangers, coexisting.  Mary thought of leaving Wyoming to escape the memories and the loss.  Mark loved the ranch and he refused to consider leaving.

Her thoughts brought tears to her eyes.  She had stayed, she did love Mark and she did love the ranch, but she felt a devastating emptiness in her heart and soul.  She wanted a child to make her life complete.  They had thought of adoption, but it was hard to fathom how to travel so far to begin adoption proceedings.  They had their jobs to think of first. There was no guarantee adoption would work.

Then her thoughts wandered to what had happened just 3 years ago.  They had lived on the ranch 12 years when God brought a child into their lives. A little 5-year-old boy named Joseph had lost his parents in a tragic car accident.  Joseph was in the care of his elderly grandparents Jimmy and Betty.  There were no other family members to care for Joseph.  His grandparents knew they were too old to care for him.  They had asked Mary and Mark if they would consider adopting Joseph.  Jimmy and Betty lived just 10 miles away and could visit often.  Mark and Mary adopted Joseph immediately and had been Joseph’s parents for 3 years now.  It took Joseph a year before he began to call Mary, mom and Mark, dad.  Joseph was now an energetic, inquisitive, bright 8-year-old.

Mary turned from the window as her thoughts were interrupted by a noise.  Mark entered the kitchen with Joseph on his heels.  Joseph was saying, “Mom, Mom, we want pancakes this morning, Dad said we could make pancakes.”  She greeted her son and her husband, with a smile.  Everything was so right with her world.