Happier Times Ahead

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For those of you who do not know what this is, it is the seed pod of the castor bean.  The castor bean plant has tropical type leaves and grows 7 to 8 feet tall.  Quite a beautiful plant. Do not be deceived by its beauty, the bean is very poisonous.

When I first started my blog in January of this year, I thought I would just be writing about dementia.  After two years of caring for my brother with dementia I felt I had a lot to tell and perhaps I could help another caregiver.  Most caregivers are in the midst of chaos, and so involved in the dementia process, they just blog to vent their frustrations.  I have given advice to some overwhelmed caregivers who blog.  I can only hope that advice helped them in some way.

Alas, after numerous posts on dementia I seemed to get more depressed with each post. I seemed to be reliving my stress, fatigue, sorrow, and several other emotions during my caregiver journey.  So, I began to post happier posts for my own peace of mind.

I am still dealing with problems even after placing my brother in a nursing home.  The responsibility is still mine to make decisions for the life of another human being.  I love my brother dearly and I miss him so much.  I never wanted to direct my brother’s life.  Who does.

So, I am off to posts on traveling, country living, gardening, cooking, animals, enjoying life, or maybe even telling old jokes:  “Why do ducks have web feet?  To stomp out forest fires. Why do elephants have big feet?  To stomp out burning ducks!” Ha

I cannot be upset or unhappy anymore, because I have a life to live and my brother’s life is disappearing. Dementia is the saddest thing I have dealt with in my entire life.  I lost my mother to dementia, and I am losing all three of my siblings to this dreaded disease. So, let’s all pray that a cure will soon be found.

I Ask You – What If . . .

Webster’s Dictionary tells me the word IF expresses a wish, condition, or stipulation.

There is so much violence in the world anymore it makes one think that there must be another way for human beings to function on this earth!

It is more than likely that most of us have used the word IF. . .  This word makes us dream of what could have occurred in our life IF. . .  “What If,” we had chosen another road to follow in our lives.  “What If,” we had pursued a different career, married someone else, or lived in a distant country.  Have you sat and pondered what your life would have been like IF . . .   I have done that very thing.

If you knew that your physical life would end shortly, how would you respond?  Would you choose to change your life?  I imagine in a situation like that we would try to complete the current life we were living.

Perhaps all of us should throw the “What Ifs,” out the door.  We need to strive to show stronger love toward the family we have right now. We should be the best that we can be.

Smile more,  hug more, enjoy life more, live our lives in a happier state of mind.  We all need to count our  blessings. Love and change start with one person and then the epidemic of love and caring happens.

“What If,” each of us simply chooses to become a better person!