We Are All Equal

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God is no respecter of persons as the apostle Peter said in Acts 10:34.

There are a lot of people, who think they are superior to the rest of the human race.  I suppose it is due to their ignorance, unkind spirit, or their swelled heads.

My niece – the Superior One – chose not to let my brother James and I know of our sister Jean’s journey through dementia into death.  How do I know my sister died? Through constant searching every other month on the internet.  Finally yesterday I discovered Jean’s obituary.  Jean passed away March 22, 2016 and my niece chose not to let her mother’s siblings know..

My brother James is in the early stages of dementia and lives in the same town as my sister.  He wanted to go visit his sister, but our niece denied him the privilege of saying goodbye to Jean.  She would not allow James to have any contact with Jean.

Why was my niece so cruel?  My sister did not raise her to be that way.  When will we learn as human beings that kindness and concern for others is what life is all about. I have tried since my brother J.R.’s death, due to dementia, to strive for a happier outlook on life. My years as J.R.’s caregiver were very hard for me emotionally. Just when you begin to achieve a happier outlook on life someone throws you a curve ball that knocks you for a loop!

We are all in this life together and we need to make this world a better place.  God will bless the kind and compassionate people on this earth. ♥

“Gentle, Loving, People”

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Elisabeth Kubler Ross was a Swiss-American psychiatrist, pioneer in near death studies. She wrote books on: Grief, Death, Dying.  She was born in Switzerland in 1926 and died in Scottsdale, Arizona in 2004.  She often discussed the 5 stages of grief, to help those who had lost loved ones.  She wrote many famous quotes, I would like to share 2 of her quotes with you. 

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

“There is within each one of us a potential for goodness beyond our imagining; for giving which seeks no reward; for listening without judgement; for loving unconditionally.”

Do the traits that Elisabeth mentioned in these quotes describe you and how you are living your life.  If they do, I commend you for being one of the beautiful, loving people. We should all strive to be kind, gentle, and caring as we live our lives.

Don’t Laugh At Others

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Peter, Paul, and Mary sang a song years ago called, “Don’t Laugh At Me.” We might all take notice of the lyrics and stop being unkind and cruel to others.

Verse l:  I’m a little boy with glasses.  The one they call a geek.  A little girl who never smiles, ’cause I have braces on my teeth.  And I know how it feels to cry myself to sleep. I’m that kid on every playground who’s always chosen last.  A single teenage mother tryin’ to overcome my past.  You don’t have to be my friend, but is it too much to ask.

Chorus:  Don’t laugh at me.  Don’t call me names.  Don’t get your pleasure from my pain. In God’s eyes we’re all the same. Someday we’ll all have perfect wings. Don’t laugh at me.

Verse 2:  I’m the beggar on the corner. You’ve passed me on the street.  And I wouldn’t be out here beggin’ if I had enough to eat.  And don’t think I don’t notice that our eyes never meet.

Chorus: Don’t laugh at me. Don’t call me names.  Don’t get your pleasure from my pain. In God’s eyes we’re all the same. Someday we’ll all have perfect wings. Don’t laugh at me.

Verse 3:  I’m fat, I’m thin, I’m short, I’m tall.  I’m deaf, I’m blind, hey, aren’t we all. In God’s eyes we’re all the same.  Someday we’ll all have perfect wings. Don’t laugh at me.

Chorus:  Don’t laugh at me.  Don’t call me names.  Don’t get your pleasure from my pain. In God’s eyes we’re all the same. Someday we’ll all have perfect wings. Don’t laugh at me.

Imagine the Possibilities

 

images (26)Can you imagine the possibilities of a better world.  There are so many negative people on this earth.  I sat here trying to think of one person I knew who was kind, generous, totally happy, and who amazed me with their positive attitude.  I thought of one lady, she is a school teacher.  Every time I encounter this precious lady she greets me with warmth and a happy smile on her face.  She greets everyone with her big smile, she is a very kind, compassionate person.  A perfect person to be a teacher, a friend, an inspiration,

When I let negative thoughts enter my mind I know that I can be that better person and discard that negativity.  If I wish to create a better person within myself I have to work toward that goal.  There is a Chinese Proverb:  “Deal with the faults of others as gently as your own.”

I found a quote by an unknown author that made me stop and think: “One day your life will flash before your eyes.  Make sure it is worth watching.”  Imagine the possibilities of your life being a story worth watching.  A story that truly inspires others.

If I improve my outlook on life and my actions I can make this world a better place in which to live. I can improve my life and the lives of those around me.  It takes one step at a time and loads of patience to change.  I can work on that positive attitude, acquire a kinder demeanor, and create untold possibilities for a happier life.

Mother Teresa said: “Kind words are short and easy to speak, but their echoes are totally endless.”  Kind words travel far and last for a very long time.  Just think how happy you feel when kind words are spoken to you by others.

We will never eradicate all of the angry, mean, hateful, unkind people from this earth, but changing ourselves can add another good person to this world.  If we change then the possibility of changing others can be achieved.  Do not expect others to listen to you and change their lives if there is negativity in your life.

There are two things others will truly see that stand out in your life.  The things you do to other people and the things you do for other people.  We all need to be more kind, more generous, more caring and extremely compassionate people. God expects us to be good, moral people.  I often sit and dream about how wonderful it would be on this earth if the world was filled with more perfect and compassionate human beings.

The possibility of each of us changing the life of one other person for the better, is achievable.  Think of the snowball effect that can happen by passing your compassion from one person to another and watching it rub off on others..  Envision the possibilities of kinder people and a better world in which to live.  One line in John Lennon’s  song “Imagine” says, “Imagine all the people living life in peace.” ♥♥♥♥♥♥

Be Kind – Be Nice

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My Mother instilled this old saying in my brain all through my childhood:  “If you can’t say nothin nice, don’t say nothin at all.”

As an adult when I’m in a situation with others and I start to say the wrong thing, I think of Mom and this old saying.  Then, I shut my mouth and I don’t say a thing.

There have been many silly, unkind, irritating people who have aggravated me in my life. When this type person talks to me and seems to be a moron, I shut my mouth. Then I tell myself to consider the source and let all their ignorant actions and words roll off my back. I keep my mouth shut.

Oh, don’t get me wrong, I can stand up for myself.  I have strong opinions and a very big mouth.  But, if the issue is stupid, leads to nothing, and harms no one, I shut my mouth.

There is a belief from at least 200 years ago – If you don’t have common horse sense to guide you then you are not very smart!  You, see horses are smarter than most of us know.  Education does not make a person smart.  What makes a person smart is being able to use common horse sense to solve problems in a calm, rational way.  Work toward a peaceful outcome.  There is too much unkindness and rage in this world today.

So be kind, be nice and use your brain correctly.  Use common horse sense.  When something unkind, or unnecessary tries to come out of your mouth, close your lips.

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Compassion For Others

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Does this cloudy, blue sky instill compassion in your heart?  Does it let you know God is in charge and He wants all of us to be more kind to each other and take care of our planet?

There is a song we sing where I attend church, part of one verse goes like this:  As we travel through life with it’s trouble and strife . . .  Trouble and strife is normally caused, because people do not show kindness and compassion for others.  Many people fail to get involved and help others.

I try to help others, but sometimes I fall short.  Let me tell you a short true story where I failed to help someone and felt shame, because I did not get involved.

My husband  and I were standing in the check-out line at Wal Mart some time ago. Several isles over we heard loud voices.  As we looked that way we saw two store employees begin to humiliate and degrade an elderly gentleman.  They had already scanned his purchases and told him what he owed.  At that point the gentleman realized he had forgotten to bring his wallet.  These two check-out clerks began to speak loudly, and rudely to this older man.  They told him there must be some money in his pockets. They told the gentleman to empty his pockets on the counter.  They did not believe his pockets were empty.  The clerks reached in and turned his front pockets wrong side out and left them that way.  They stuck their hands into the back pockets on his pants, degrading him verbally the entire time.  They patted the pocket on his shirt.  My husband and I both said to each other that we should help this man pay for his purchases. Normally we would have done so, but we just stood there and did nothing.  Finally the older man left with his head hung low, the clerks degrading him as he walked away, trying to put his front pockets back in place.  My husband and I could not believe we stood there and did nothing.

I have seen my husband forget his wallet and on those days I paid the bill.  When you are alone and have no way to pay, does that mean you should be treated as this older gentleman was treated?  Absolutely not!

Many opportunities have arisen for my husband and I to help someone, who lacked a dollar or two to pay in the check-out line,  by giving them the amount they needed.  You get a very genuine thank you and a big smile when you help someone.  I am sure many of you have helped someone in this manner.

What has happened to “Compassion for others in our society?”  Why is there so much hate, violence, and unconcern in this world?  There is not enough love and compassion on planet earth.  If one person at a time would step-up and help someone, perhaps this world would become a better place in which to live.  God tells us in the Bible that LOVE is the greatest and most important element in our lives.

Step up and help others.  That could be you who is being degraded and needs a compassionate, kind stranger to rescue you.